Self Development Tips.. By Tracy

SELF DEVELOPMENT TIPS

1. Make friends with successful people and occasionally buy them gifts and surprise them with lunch because successful people always give and hardly get, so when you give them, they value the gift a lot.

2. Get a mentor and follow his instructions and respect the relationship. Never beg your mentor for money or disrespect his or her privacy.

3. Make new positive friends as often as possible and ensure you keep the communication line open. Create a network of friends and not just connections.

5. Show kindness to everyone. Some small boys today will be big boys tomorrow. The biggest dog in the neighbourhood was once a puppy. And keep the information/secret to yourself.

6. Always plan ahead and be proactive. He that plans the future work less in the future.

7. Listen to speeches and messages from great teachers. Both religious and educational.

8. Attend seminars and training on any area you need to improve yourself. Train the trainer, personal development, public speaking, sales etc.

9. Have the habit of keeping a pen and a writing pad handy because ideas come in the form of flashes. The smallest pen is bigger and better than the biggest brain.

10. Make sure at every point in time you are reading a book. If you spend 20 minutes reading daily, for 52 weeks you would have consumed 1,000,000 words.

11.Stay away from television as much as possible. You can watch educational channels. Men with big TV sit in front of them to watch men with big library.

12 Put control over your mouth, never say evil of any man, what you are not certain of should not be said. Say good of all men.

13. Always show appreciation for any good deed you received.

14. Always help someone in need.

15. Live a debt free life. What you can’t pay cash for is not your size.

16. Give out loans that you can part with as gift, so that you don’t destroy your business and relationship.

17. Create legitimate multiple sources of income.

18. Save at least 10 percent of your income.

19. Invest a portion of your income. And be patient to see it grow. If what you have in your hands is not good to be called a harvest then it’s a seed, sow it.

20. Keep a good financial record of all income and expenses, so you won’t ask later “where did my money go”

21. Be involved in community service. Control traffic, free lesson class for students etc.

22. Keep getting better on your daily goals and dream, develop yourself on them and make sure you get to the top 10 % of your industry.

23. Make sure you engage in exercise. It keeps your brain alert and your body fit to enjoy your success.

24. Pray often, and know that for every success, God made it possible.

Wishing you the very best. I tell you, this will keep you going in life if you practice what you just read.
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Overcoming Self Doubt...

Overcoming Self Doubt

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Do You Have Self-Doubt?

Self-doubt is one of the primary obstacles in the way of living a fulfilling life. Extreme self-doubt is unhealthy for the soul and it drags down your spirit, prevents you from achieving your goals, and crushes your ambitions. Everyone has an inner voice in their head, telling them that they’re not strong enough, not good enough, and incapable of doing the things that they desire to accomplish. This feeling of incompetence or weakness stems from their childhood and tends to be ingrained in their overall being.

Self doubt leads to serious problems like depression and anxiety. It’s no secret that these emotional disorders can turn to physical ailments such as chronic fatigue, high blood pressure, weight gain, and increased mortality to people with heart disease. It’s important that you know the destructive power of extreme self-doubt. But, it’s better if you know how to counteract this negative feeling, so you can enjoy a fulfilling life.
 

How to Overcome Self-Doubt

Self-doubt is not a fatal disease. It’s simply a negative attitude that you need to correct to allow you to live a fulfilling life. Here are the best tips to overcome self-doubt.

Live Life in the Present – Feelings of extreme self-doubt are often attached to the memories of the past. These memories will probably be about a time when someone told you that you weren’t good enough or a time that you failed to accomplish something. If you keep on thinking about these things, you’re only attracting the negative energy that fuels your self-doubt. Do not live in these moments; think about the person you are in the present time. Just because you could not accomplish something in the past does not mean that you cannot complete it in the future. Each day is a new start and a chance of doing what you really want for real.

Trust Yourself – Oftentimes, your worst enemy can be your own self. If you keep on thinking that you are not good at something and cannot do the things you want to do, you will never even try it, and you will be stuck where you are right now. You need to have strong faith in yourself. You need to constantly tell yourself that you are capable of achieving your goals.

Counteract Your Negative Thoughts – There are times that the negative voices in your head tend to be stronger than the positive voices. When this happens, try to neglect them, and make planned efforts to concentrate on the positive voices. When you have a feeling that negatives thoughts are coming, remind yourself about your strengths and the traits you like about yourself. Think of all the things that you have achieved on your own in the past and this will make you proud of yourself.

Discover the Source of Your Self-Doubt – If you constantly tell yourself that you’re not good enough, you need to know the cause of the problem. Where does your self-doubt originate? What was the event that made you harbor this feeling? Once you have identified and understand the source of your self-doubt, it will be easier to eliminate your negative thought patterns.

Spend Time with Other People – Your family and friends are your primary source of strength, encouragement, and reassurance. When you have strong social support, you can get rid of your negative thoughts about yourself. Even strangers can be surprisingly helpful in getting rid of your self-doubt. Simply expressing your doubt to a complete stranger can make you realize how illogical your negativity can be.

Deep Driving out of Procrastination

Deep Diving Out Of ProcrastinationBy Frank Perez 

​Deep Diving Out Of Procrastination

By Frank Perez 

Procrastination - we're all guilty of this. You wouldn't be human if you didn't. So just why do we procrastinate at times? Recent research has revealed that we put off things that we don't like to do. In psychobabble - task aversiveness.

When we have tasks to do that we consider unpleasant, unenjoyable,

boring, frustrating, difficult or that we resent we are more likely to put these off and avoid them if possible.

This just seems to be common sense and logic so far. What else has the research uncovered? Come on Frank, get to the good stuff!

Okay, you've twisted my arm. The other thing that is important to note from the research is that the way we look at these tasks change over the life of the task. Early on, the more meaningful and purposeful the task is to what we imagine in our lives, the higher we rate that task as enjoyable. Later in the life of that same task what might make them aversive is not having them defined properly.

So, based on the above we might find ourselves needing to have

different strategies to finish off the tasks that we have given ourselves!

In very plain English, imagine you have decided that you are going to lose 10Kgs by going to the gym. In the early stages, motivation is quite simple because you still have the main goal in focus. Come day 3 of getting up early for the gym... different story!

What's in it for me?

Simple. We can take this knowledge and apply it accordingly. If you need to get yourself motivated early on in a project, task or goal -

make it more meaningful to your overall life goals. This should give you the kick-start that you need at that point in time.

When you find yourself beginning to look at the tasks in front of you with dread later in the project, perhaps remind yourself of what that small piece actually means to you as part of the bigger picture. Secondly, at this part of the journey - make sure that the tasks are clearly defined and structured so that there are no gray areas or uncertainty. Break down any complex task into more easily managed ones.

One Final Thought

Perception is reality.

Thinking that tasks are boring will make them boring.

Thinking that tasks are going to be hard will make them hard.

If you can change the way you look at the tasks in front of you, you will actually change your own behavior.

Once you choose hope, anything is possible

"Hope is the Last thing ever lost".. - - - - Italian Proverb

Ecc9:4 Anyone who is among the living has hope, even a live dog is better off than a dead lion..

Life is full of pains, suffering, disappointment and knocked down, but it can be overcome with Hope.  Hope provide us with strength and energy to with stand the tussle of life.

"Hope is an Optimistic attitude of mind that is based on an expectation of positive outcomes related to events and circumstances in one's life and the world at large". Hope motivates us to persevere, despite the obstacles, the trial of life, not knowing how, when, or where or why our life story will conclude.

Hope can impact several aspects of life such as health, work, education and personal meaning.  Synder postulated that there are three main things that make up hopeful thinking
Goal- Approaching life in a goal oriented way.
Pathway- Finding different ways to achieve your goals
Agency -  Believing that you can instigate change and achieve these goals.

Benefits of Hope
Rom15:13  "May the God of Hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may Overflow with hope by the power of Holy Spirit.
- it comfort us
- it gives gift of Faith
-it encourages us
-it gives peace
-it gives Joy

Hope is not a wishful thinking, nor is it magical thinking.  Hope is an emotion, a mindset, a belief, a motivation, that despite set back and obstacles, challenges and circumstances, you believe that your life will workout, you can achieve and do incredible things..

Most difficult age for most Nigerian Men

Found this interesting piece on facebook and i decided to share...enjoy

The most difficult age for any man born in Nigeria should be between 24 and 29 years, the pressure to be something, to be someone is so immense. When you look around you everyone seems to be doing something for themselves, people seem to be living a life you only dream of. You have applied for jobs and the results have been more disappointing than Yakubu Aiyegbeni goal miss at the world cup.

Sadly this is the age when most guys lose it, the age when if not careful one is consumed by alcohol or drugs, because the disappointments become too much and you find alternative ways to face reality. Worse is when a few people you studied with have been lucky enough to land
jobs, soon your circle of friends gets thinner – mostly they don’t even cut you out but you will be real with yourself and cut yourself off. I mean what will you do when you are in a WhatsApp group of friends and they are discussing about last week’s trip in Dubai and planning another trip to South Africa while you are not sure of what your next meal would be?
Most times you follow the conversation silently, all alone like a cross on the grave. Soon you realize this is no longer your kind of crowd because the more you keep around the more the pressure to be something, takes a toll on you.

You know when stories about house parties come up and you act deaf because you don’t know where an extra 5 guys would fit in your house. Have you ever sat in a group of people discussing the new iPhone on the market or how British Airways offers poo services and you can feel your heart whisper to you "boss this is chest pain hour, can we just go and find a group that talks about GMAT, SHL, Dragnet, jobberman or job vacancies sites".

But you sit there as these people are lost in their lifestyle conversations, you are like a secretary taking minutes in meeting. You are totally forgotten like one of a woman’s breasts during pre-intimacy. Once in a while one of the friends will turn and ask if you need another drink and you wonder if you should just say No and head home, but head home to do what? So you grudgingly drop in the comment “I will have just one last one“...Lie!!!

But after a few years of job hunting, you are now ready to take anything even if is to smell a rich man’s farts as long as it pays, so you end up as an office messenger in one blue chip company in town. To imagine that 4-5 years of studying and getting a degree is now reduced to picking and dropping off letters and if you are not doing that, you are being sent for cheap lunch by the employees when they are broke and they can’t order with fast food. This is when conversations about where people schooled start, you go silent for it’s no longer of any use to say you also reached University, it doesn’t matter – you have resorted to surviving.

Once in while you will bump into your now well to do classmates, they would offer you lunch, but not even eating the meals at Eko Hotel or Sheraton will make you feel better about yourself, because in your mind you wish instead they would give you the 30k and you sort your meals for the next 5 weeks. As it is the norm you will have photos taken, and uploaded on Facebook, but always it’s your face that would look the odd one out – not even the best filters can hide a face which has suffered the city's dust and sun but survives on boiled beans.

The worst mistake you can do during this period is to try and date – there is nothing that a person going through such times can offer in terms of love. How are you going to do evening romantic walks when you are tired from walking delivering letters in offices around town? What are you going to tell your lady when she says she wants to go for relaxation at the bar, pool or love garden sites that are in town? That your financial religion doesn’t allow it or what? This is the age when you sit back and watch as the ladies you would want to date are dating or getting married to guys 10 years older than you. And you can’t blame them – it’s only that your life seems to be progressing slower than their goals in life. Most of the ladies you meet during this period, if you are lucky will be patient with you till you hit 28, and if by then your life is still in disarray like Leicester city's performance in the EPL then my friend be prepared for a walk out.

But then this is the age when you learn a lot of about life, if you can hack through this stage of life the only hard moment in your life would be when you lose your parents - that’s if you are still lucky enough to have them. This stage teaches you a lot about perseverance, about appreciating the small wins you have each day, it teaches you something about friendship, love, career growth and personal responsibility. This is always your rise or fall moment depending on the choices you make.

How you live your life in the 30’s is determined by how you handled your life in this phase. Do not Give up. Do not Be Depressed. remain focused and create a Strategy. Be consistent, you must Surely Win. Peace
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5 Rules of a Relationship

- Stay Faithful

- Make them feel wanted

-Respect your Partner

-Don't flirt with others

-Make time.