Needs of Husband and Wife in a Home

The Needs of Husband and Wife in a Home

To the glory of God, I’ve been married . And by God’s special grace, the Holy Spirit has revealed some things to me that I’d love to share with you all.

1. First all, When it comes to marriage, it is not about YOu

2. It takes two to tangle; it also takes two to mess things up

3. Many people enter marriage with expectations that will only satisfy themselves.

4. Marriage is bigger than me, myself and I.

5. Marriage is a team. Every successful team has a goal that they’re working towards. In order to accomplish that goal, they must work together (Amos 3:3)

6. Every successful team also has a coach… For us believers, the Holy Spirit is our coach.
Learning to partner with the holy spirit in marriage is one of the most important skills you’ll ever need to acquire.

7. Each marriage union that has been ordained by God has a purpose. When you keep that purpose in view and work towards it together as a team, you honor God in your marriage (the ultimate goal of marriage).

8. In marriage, we must aim to please God and meet the needs of our spouse. Bare in mind, that your spouse is God’s gift to you. You must cherish this gift, never despise it. God only gives good and perfect gifts. The day you start to despise this gift, you give the devil a room in your home. Then he begins to feed you with lies, once you believe them issues begin to arise.

9. We must understand that no marriage is the same. Just like no person is the same. We were all uniquely designed for destiny

10. Therefore the needs of your spouse may differ from that of someone else’s spouse. Never be tempted to compare your marriage to anyone else’s or spouse to anyone else’s.

11. Learn to love and nourish what you have. The grass is not greener on the other side. It is the grass that is well kept and nourished that is greener.

12. Marriage is a union of two imperfect people on a journey to purpose by the leading of a perfect God.

13. Learn to manage your expectations of your spouse and give them room to learn and grow. Just like their are growth pains, there will be some tough times but never loose your focus.

14. Remember aim to always please God. Love is always the way and love is always the answer… Never forget that. This is why God commanded us to love, it is not a suggestion it is the recipe for a successful life.

So what does a man want from his wife in marriage? And what does a woman want from her husband???

Let’s look to the bible, it has the answers to all of life’s questions.

First of all, in the marriage union the ultimate need for both men and women is reverence (Ephesians 5:21).
However, each one interprets reverence differently.

What husbands need: Ephesians 5:21-24

Out of respect for Christ, be courteously reverent to one another.
Wives, understand and support your husbands in ways that show your support for Christ. The husband provides leadership to his wife the way Christ does to his church, not by domineering but by cherishing

So just as the church submits to Christ as he exercises such leadership, wives should likewise submit to their husbands
Ephesians 5:21-24 MSG

1. Men need submission from their wives in all things.

2. Men need their wives to trust their leadership; they need their wives to depend on them.

Husband provides leadership by cherishing!
Exquisite

3. Men need to be understood, not challenged.
4. Men need their wives’ support

5. Men need ‘followership’ from their wives; they need their wives to follow their guidance.

When they observe the pure and modest way in which you conduct yourselves, together with your reverence [for your husband; you are to feel for him all that reverence includes: to respect, defer to, revere him–to honor, esteem, appreciate, prize, and, in the human sense, to adore him, that is, to admire, praise, be devoted to, deeply love, and enjoy your husband].
1 Peter 3:2 AMP
That’s the summary…respect him, defer to him, revere him, etc

6. Men need a warm environment to come home to
7. Men also need sex regularly

Now moving on to what women need… Ephesians 5:25-33

Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church—a love marked by giving, not getting. Christ’s love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her, dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness. And that is how husbands ought to love their wives. They’re really doing themselves a favor—since they’re already “one” in marriage.
Ephesians 5:25-28 MSG

No one abuses his own body, does he? No, he feeds and pampers it. That’s how Christ treats us, the church, since we are part of his body. And this is why a man leaves father and mother and cherishes his wife. No longer two, they become “one flesh.” This is a huge mystery, and I don’t pretend to understand it all. What is clearest to me is the way Christ treats the church. And this provides a good picture of how each husband is to treat his wife, loving himself in loving her, and how each wife is to honor her husband.
Ephesians 5:29-33 MSG
1. Women need love: The primary need of a wife is LOVE.- pure, undilatued, unadulterated, uncomprised REAL quality love (read the 5 love languages by Gary Chapman)

2. Women need communication; This love should be communicated through your words. (i.e. Communication- love can not be assumed, it must be expressed (communicated)

3. Women need affirmation – Every action and word spoken by the husband to his wife must be carefully selected to affirm the wife (Words are significant to women; build her up with your words…just like God sent his word to heal and deliver us)

4. Women need to be a priority: Put your wives first (cherish her), ensure that she is well taken care of (make sure she’s well dressed, fed, etc… The wife is the reflection of the husband, just like Christ is the brightness of God’s glory).

5. Women need security, a husband should protect his wife; he should be her covering.

6. Women need guidance, they need a leader. In order to help you fulfill your destiny, they need to see and believe in your vision.

7. Women need to be fed with the Word of God from the mouth of their husband.

When it is all said and done, marriage is honorable. It is a divine convenant; hence both husband and wife should rely on the leading of the Holy Spirit (it is not my human might or power, it is by the Spirit).

Declaration

#iDeclare

I dwell in the secret place of the Most High
I abide under the Shadow of the Almighty
I say of the Lord, He is my refuge and fortress
I trust in God wholeheartedly for my life's assignment

I am delivered from every snare, concerning me the snare is broken and I have escaped in the name of Jesus.
I am covered with God's feathers, no matter how common evil is, it will not come near me. I declare that no plague shall come near my dwelling place. I am established in righteousness and oppression is far from me

I set my love upon God, I grow in the things of the Spirit, I perceive that I am carrier of destiny therefore I am bringing forth. I have been impregnated with greatness. My process won't be a waste, no matter where I am today, I am ending up a world class product. I know the name of the Lord therefore He will set me on High. I decree that My life is decorated with Honour, Abundance and Long life.

I announce that the heavens over me is open, the clouds over me is heavy. I can feel the breeze of uncommon speed. I am soaked in the rain of grace. In this season, I receive showers of blessings. Showers for Showers, Blessings for Blessings. In my home, there will be showers of celebrations. In my  ministry, there shall be showers of open doors. In my business there shall be showers of exploits, everywhere I go my story shall be showers of miracles and showers of Favour. Today I receive the wealth that cannot finish. I am taking money out of money. I am a kingdom financier of the highest level.

From today, I begin to operate in the Isaac anointing, I prosper , I go forward till I become very great. I step into wide open spaces. I perceive that I have come out of bondage, my silver and gold is very plenty and I will not be feeble

My horn is exalted like that of a unicorn. I function with fresh oil. I am excited because I am a carrier of glory, a carrier of wealth, a dispenser of grace, a carrier of the anointing, I Have world class mind blowing results. I have speed on my feet. I am soaring on the wings of grace. I am bubbling with Zoe. It is happening already.

Declaration

#iDeclare

I dwell in the secret place of the Most High
I abide under the Shadow of the Almighty
I say of the Lord, He is my refuge and fortress
I trust in God wholeheartedly for my life's assignment

I am delivered from every snare, concerning me the snare is broken and I have escaped in the name of Jesus.
I am covered with God's feathers, no matter how common evil is, it will not come near me. I declare that no plague shall come near my dwelling place. I am established in righteousness and oppression is far from me

I set my love upon God, I grow in the things of the Spirit, I perceive that I am carrier of destiny therefore I am bringing forth. I have been impregnated with greatness. My process won't be a waste, no matter where I am today, I am ending up a world class product. I know the name of the Lord therefore He will set me on High. I decree that My life is decorated with Honour, Abundance and Long life.

I announce that the heavens over me is open, the clouds over me is heavy. I can feel the breeze of uncommon speed. I am soaked in the rain of grace. In this season, I receive showers of blessings. Showers for Showers, Blessings for Blessings. In my home, there will be showers of celebrations. In my  ministry, there shall be showers of open doors. In my business there shall be showers of exploits, everywhere I go my story shall be showers of miracles and showers of Favour. Today I receive the wealth that cannot finish. I am taking money out of money. I am a kingdom financier of the highest level.

From today, I begin to operate in the Isaac anointing, I prosper , I go forward till I become very great. I step into wide open spaces. I perceive that I have come out of bondage, my silver and gold is very plenty and I will not be feeble

My horn is exalted like that of a unicorn. I function with fresh oil. I am excited because I am a carrier of glory, a carrier of wealth, a dispenser of grace, a carrier of the anointing, I Have world class mind blowing results. I have speed on my feet. I am soaring on the wings of grace. I am bubbling with Zoe. It is happening already.

Warfare

"(For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;) 2 Corinthians 10:4"  :

The Christian has many weapons to fight the enemy, both within and without. The enemy uses our mind as a field to sow negative thoughts; these negative and unprofitable thoughts fight the good thoughts that the Lord puts in our minds. Some of these strongholds are those beliefs and philosophies we held onto before and after salvation which are not founded on the Word of God. The Christian has many weapons: the Word of God, faith, speaking in tongues, meditation on scripture and confessing them, prayer, etc. These are mighty enough to destroy every arrow and scheme of the devil. Dear reader, have you ever tried these weapons?

His word, your wisdom

His Word, Your Wisdom

(Jeremiah 8:9 NKJV) The wise men are ashamed, They are dismayed and taken. Behold, they have rejected the word of the LORD; So what wisdom do they have?

It is so sad to see God's people subjected to poor standards in life. We see this happen a lot all because many Christians have made light of the most important weapon that heaven has given us, which is the Word of God. You were made to live by the wisdom that is in the Word of God. The world around you should find it difficult to predict you.

Why? Your life is built on the wisdom that the devil is yet to know. The secret to this extraordinary life is available to you. But you will not be able to lay hold on this wisdom until God's Word becomes real to you. Every word that proceeds out of the mouth of God is your source of wisdom. A man of the Word is a man of wisdom.

He has supernatural insight regarding life situations. Be smart. Place a great value on God's Word for it is your wisdom! Don't depend on natural wisdom. In the days we live in, natural wisdom will fail. But wisdom from the Word will always win.
DAILY SCRIPTURE READING:Jeremiah 8

God is Healing our land

God Is Healing Our Lands  by Kenneth Copeland

Shall their unbelief make the faith of God without effect? God forbid.
– Romans 3:3-4

Faith-filled words. That's what changes things. They'll move mountains into the sea. They'll turn sickness into health. They'll turn a sinner into a saint.

They'll also take a sin-ridden nation and turn it into God's own country. That's right. Then, if we believers would back up the prayers we've been praying for this nation with words of faith instead of doubt and discouragement, we'd soon begin to see spiritual resurrection in our country.

God promised us that if we, His people, would humble ourselves and pray and seek His face and turn from our wicked ways, He would heal our land. And let me tell you, there are prayer warriors all over this country (I hope you're one of them) who are doing what that promise requires.

But, even so, you don't hear many people saying, "This is great! God is healing the land." You don't hear people speaking out by faith the promise of God. Instead, you hear them saying, "Oh my, oh my, did you hear what those terrorists are doing?" or some other destructive thing they've seen on television.

Listen, we need to stop preaching what the terrorists are doing and start telling what God is doing! God said He is healing this land.

We must start speaking about this country by faith instead of going around spouting bad news all the time. Of course, that will sound odd to most people. Some of them may even think we've slipped a few cogs. But that's nothing new.

Let me tell you something: One handful of believers who are listening to, trusting in, and speaking out the good news of God are more powerful than all the devils on earth. One handful of believers is more powerful than a whole army of unbelieving doomsayers. The unbelief of the doomsayers will not make the faith of God of no effect!

Tips To Enhance The Quality Of Your Life

Not everyone leads a comfortable and peaceful life. But this need not be the case. If you are also struggling to lead a peaceful life, you can use the following tips for enhancing the quality of your life.

1. Try to remain motivated always
Whatever may be your goal, your passion should be strong. Only then, you will willingly take consistent action. Otherwise, you may get bored soon. One of the steps suggested for having a strong motivation is to keep changing the sequence of doing things. Similarly, try to add novel elements to your activities. You must also be ready to improve upon your knowledge by learning new things, Most importantly, you must be clear about your goals. If you split your major goal into smaller ones and keep rewarding yourself for achieving these smaller milestones, you can always remain motivated.

2. Acquire leadership skills for leading a better life
If you think that since you are working under a manager, you are not a leader, you are wrong. Even subordinates must have leadership skills because you may need those skills quite often. If you participate actively in team or group meetings, voice your opinions boldly and clearly and at the same time, allow others also to voice their opinions, you are proving that you possess leadership skills.
Similarly, try to come up with solutions to the issues you and your group may face. Your solutions should be based on strong and stimulating ideas. Likewise, when others come out with creative solutions, show your appreciation sincerely. This is also a leadership quality. A remarkable benefit of this approach is that you will develop an excellent rapport with those folks. You can expect to have good cooperation from them also.

3. Learn to communicate more effectively
A number of people think that if they possess excellent language skills, they are good communicators. But they cannot be more wrong. Though language skills are important, communication is not just limited to language skills. How you effectively use non-verbal signals is important to be a good communicator. Some of the non-verbal signals are having proper eye contact, understanding the non-verbal signals of others, and using your tone for conveying the right messages, information and emotions with the right emphasis. Similarly, learning to understand the information, messages and emotions of others by reading their verbal and non-verbal signals in the right manner is important as well.

4. Improve the accuracy of your decisions
This is very important for leading a better life. Experts point out that if you use what is known as the "six-thinking-hats" approach, you can view situations from multiple perspectives that include positive, negative, emotional, rational, creative, and intuitive angles. You must also take into account the costs you are likely to incur in implementing the decisions and also the benefits you may derive out of them. Of course, you must check if your decisions will perfectly fulfill your needs.

5. A good memory will also help in leading a better life
Those who have achieved stupendous success in life may have a good memory. Developing such a memory will help you as well. Having utmost focus on the information you gather or learn, rehearsing on the things you learn, and eliminating distractions are some of the ways to develop a good memory.

6. Make wise financial decisions
There are a few key principles that may help in making wise financial decisions. The first principle is that you must begin your investments in savings as early as possible. Procrastination will deprive you of very good opportunities. Committing in advance for parking your funds in worthwhile investments is the second principle and a sound strategy. Thirdly, never allow personal biases to influence your financial decisions.

7. Learn to improve your productivity
Researchers were previously suggesting that multitasking would help but recent studies have revealed that trying to do more number of tasks simultaneously may hamper accuracy, efficiency, productivity and speed. So, focus on one single task and move on to the next one only after finishing the first one.

8. Maintain your health
Eat healthy foods, do your exercises regularly, and have adequate sleep for maintaining your health. Researchers have found that exposure to sunlight is equally important to have good health. Likewise, you must stay away from unhealthy behaviors and habits also.

These tips will go a long way in helping you in enhancing the quality of your life.